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Post by lesj on Sept 5, 2020 18:07:19 GMT
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Post by cufcok1 on Sept 6, 2020 14:05:25 GMT
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Post by pedrosacapuntas on Sept 9, 2020 12:56:45 GMT
They'll get a few quid come their way if nothing else.
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lesj
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Post by lesj on Sept 9, 2020 14:02:42 GMT
They might get a few quid come their way, but nothing will replace their parents.
Having lost my father at 11 years old and my mother at 14 years old I know .
But having lost both their parents at once, it must be far worse for these poor little girls.
I would imagine they must be crying themselves to sleep.
To be honest , it has brought tears to my eyes just typing this.
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Post by cambcam on Sept 9, 2020 15:41:17 GMT
They might get a few quid come their way, but nothing will replace their parents. Having lost my father at 11 years old and my mother at 14 years old I know . But having lost both their parents at once, it must be far worse for these poor little girls. I would imagine they must be crying themselves to sleep. To be honest , it has brought tears to my eyes just typing this. That’s dreadful Les, I’ve managed to dodge the bereavement pain of a very close loved one but no one goes on for ever and it must be tough enough when you experience it as an adult never mind as a younger person. I can’t imagine how that must be and your few sentences speak volumes. Reading that story has made me reflect because I’ve been increasingly aware of being distracted while driving and have been trying (not very well) to make a conscious effort to improve that. As we all know if you leave things to chance your luck eventually runs out and it makes sense to do something about it first. Essentially, I do around 25/30k miles per year and figured because I’m using Bluetooth/voice dialling/voice texting/voice satnav command/voice music commands and voice this-that-an-the-other, it was ok (ish) because it is legal. Cars and commercial vehicles have effectively become mobile offices, and manufacturers appear to recognise and accept this and make the aids as hands free as possible, but from experience it just means you risk juggling even more balls than before. With vehicles now providing autonomous braking, active cruise control, lane keeping assist etc etc it feels we are getting close to the tipping point, whereby the aids are adding false security and potentially making things worse. I’d never suggest the driver is anything other than fully responsible for their actions, but this thread has brought that into focus again. Turning the car back into something that gets you from one place to another instead of a mobile office is an urgent priority, so thank you for that. |
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Post by lesj on Sept 9, 2020 15:57:38 GMT
Thanks for your message, I have now had 60 plus years to get over it.
But as both my parents were ill with cancer prior to their passing they were not well enough to help me as they would have liked & it did affect my education.
Having said that I do feel very lucky to the bad luck that some people have.
It is for this reason why I support Macmillan cancer & Cancer reasearch as I would hate to see anybody suffer as they did
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Post by lesj on Sept 9, 2020 22:06:12 GMT
Speaking of different aids on cars , I have been wondering for some time now if something could be developed in emergency services sirens( fire , ambulance , police) that would cut out a cars radio when it sounds.
Before now when I have had my radio on, I have not heard the siren or noticed the flashing immediately in my mirror, and that is worrying.
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Post by cambcam on Sept 10, 2020 7:34:53 GMT
Thanks for your message, I have now had 60 plus years to get over it. But as both my parents were ill with cancer prior to their passing they were not well enough to help me as they would have liked & it did affect my education. Having said that I do feel very lucky to the bad luck that some people have. It is for this reason why I support Macmillan cancer & Cancer reasearch as I would hate to see anybody suffer as they did That must’ve been extremely difficult to deal with and these things must have a profound affect. You do sound like a very good person Les and should be very proud of that. Mortality is something many of us have been forced to think about particularly since Covid-19. I’ll readily admit my wife’s Papworth experiences gave an insight and exposure to mortality I’d previously been oblivious to and an awareness of just how much some things are taken for granted. Was listening to Vinnie Jones on 5 Live while driving the other day, talking about dealing with the loss of his wife that he evidently idolised. The man is clearly heartbroken. You’d have to be an automaton not to listen to that without a lump in your throat. It was very brave of him to talk so openly and feels in doing so he might help others. He was on Piers Morgan Life Stories too apparently so will try and make an effort to catch up with that. Listening to him on the radio was immensely moving and I would imagine the tv appearance the same. Sadly there is no escaping certain painful things, and I guess it’s how you deal with them that matters. For yourself (and Vinnie) to immediately default to wanting to help others says a lot about who you are and is something you should be very proud of indeed. |
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Post by nutsaboutamber on Sept 10, 2020 16:17:33 GMT
Just about everybody it seems keeps their phone well,well below their eye line in their cars. Certainly as far as town driving is concerned people are driving on secondary sense now with their heads dipped or dropped to the side to look at their screen. I cannot tell you how potentially catastrophic this behaviour is...
Likewise, human default to phone at any sort of stoppage eg junction, red light, etc.
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Post by imp566 on Sept 10, 2020 20:37:32 GMT
I don't understand why technology can't be introduced to block a mobile phone signal when the ignition is on.
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Post by lesj on Sept 10, 2020 22:10:25 GMT
That I'm sure would save a lot of accidents.
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Post by Mark of Carnage on Sept 11, 2020 7:16:50 GMT
I don't understand why technology can't be introduced to block a mobile phone signal when the ignition is on. That would be daft. I use mine as a satnav. I don't use it for anything else in the car. Also, passengers shouldn't be stopped using theirs. My daughter is always on hers when I'm driving her about. Going to be shot down for being sexist but all the men I know are not into telephone conversations or texting unless they have to. Driving is great because you can ignore. I keep my phone on silent as a default anyway so wouldn't know if anyone was calling me. I do check my phone a few times during the day and would tend to when I'm stopped at services but otherwise why would I want to. Jf you had said to me 20 years ago I would have a phone in the car I would have laughed and asked what for but I feel naked without it now. My big fear is not having it with me in the event of breakdown or accident. I still carry a pen and paper for old times sake. I think mobile phones are great. The real issue has always been people giving proper attention to their driving. We have all seen drivers balancing food and fags, swaying to music and distracted chatting to passengers. Those events are just as bad as using mobile phones. I also think hands free calls can be just as distracting to the driver. |
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Post by lesj on Sept 11, 2020 15:19:44 GMT
Surely Satnav on your phone is a bad idea.?
It would be a lot safer installed in the car.
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Post by Mark of Carnage on Sept 11, 2020 17:31:16 GMT
Surely Satnav on your phone is a bad idea.? It would be a lot safer installed in the car. Why would it be safer? Sometimes I run the sat nav through the car speakers if that is what you mean but mostly I can't be bothered. I don't think it makes any difference. It's not as if I'm holding or looking at the phone. |
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Post by soulhalshall on Sept 11, 2020 20:19:33 GMT
The biggest distraction I find unfortunately is when driving with my daughter (17 months) in the back. If she has thrown something down or is wailing or is quiet I'm constantly considering how she is or what she is doing. I feel nervous about this sometimes; trying to be as safe as possible but also aware of her with her backward-facing seat.
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